It is easy to choose your path when you are going through your life alone. Once there is another one sharing your life, there is double to do in less than half the time. You need to spend more time and energy to do things which never really mattered to you. So why even get into this?
Well reality is I don’t know. I have seen my fair share of good and bad in life, and I am blessed to have a little more of the good than the bad. But there are days where all I can think about is the bad and all that isn’t. Some time ago one of my colleague’s wife went to visit home for a couple of weeks. The first thing he did was arranged a meet up with the guys to have some drinks and spend some time after work. While we were there, he and another one of my friends, who is single, decided they should visit Vegas while the other guy’s family was out.
I found it was easy for the married guy to convince himself that he deserved this. And I am not the one in position to judge him to be right or wrong. I might do something similar in his situation. But why did he get into his “situation”. I think it is something I call ” one of these days” syndrome.
We have been putting this instruction in our heads about things we will do one of these days. And why don’t we do it, because we are doing things a married person should do. Work 8-10 hours, commute an hour, spend time watching TV – oops – spend quality time with spouse, so what if the TV is on, we are together and then get the beauty sleep. Plan every long weekend to see everything possible in a fancy destination, even if we have to run faster than a work day. And most important of all, day dream about one of these days when we will do what we really want.
And then there is a day when you are going through more than usual crap, just trying to keep your head above water. All you want to do is sit with your head in your hands. Instead you smell a cup of tea approaching with a warm smile and you find out everything you went through to get here was worth it.
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